(If you missed the uproar, have a flick through it all here. Trigger warning.)
Rape is not funny. Rape is never funny. There is no such thing as ‘rape banter’.
If you have to make ‘jokes’ about rape in order to be funny, then let’s face it: you’re just not funny.
Next time you try to be the funny man and say things like this, please remember that you do not exist in a vacuum. Everything you say makes a difference, be it a miniscule difference, or something that will change the world. When you write something like “If the girl you’ve taken for a drink […] won’t ‘spread for your head’, think about this mathematical statistic: 85% of rape cases go unreported. That seems to be fairly good odds” on the internet, people read that. It doesn’t just cause a few giggles and then disappear in a puff of smoke. Somebody read it. Maybe somebody took it to heart.
When you say things like that, or post them on the internet, what you are doing is contributing to a culture in which women get raped and assaulted by men who think it’s funny, who think that the women deserve it. It means that vulnerable women get preyed on. It means that someone, somewhere is going to think it’s perfectly acceptable to rape a woman because, you know, there’s an 85% chance she won’t report it. Good odds, right?
When you say things like that, it means that one day, a woman you love and care about might be raped or assaulted. It means that if this happens, people will question whether or not she deserved it, whether she was drunk, whether she was promiscuous or flirty, dressed provocatively. People won’t believe her. The man who did it might brag to his friends about it. She might not report it, because the low conviction rate might make her think that it’s not worth her time, that she doesn’t want to put herself through that. It means that if this happens, you will have to face up to the fact that you have contributed to a culture where rape is not taken seriously. Where it is trivialised. Where people think that ‘rape banter’ is a thing, and find it hilarious to say ‘it’s not rape if you shout surprise’. Let’s hope that never happens to anyone you love, OK?
It’s not even just that, Unilad. It’s not as though that’s all you’ve done wrong. There’s the suggestion that having sex with a pregnant woman would constitute a threesome. Because you think that an unborn foetus counts as a sexual partner, right? I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt and say that you don’t actually think that, and that you just thought it was funny. So let’s add unborn-baby-paedophilia to the list of ‘things that aren’t funny, and aren’t acceptable to joke about’. It’s also that you seem to hate fat women. Ugly women. Women with pubic hair. Any woman who doesn’t fit into your narrow definition of what is sexually acceptable. You seem intent on letting women know that the way they are is probably not acceptable to you because it doesn’t turn you on, and letting other men know that there is only a certain type of woman that they should deem sexually attractive. You’re not doing anyone a favour.
Your website is down, and apparently you won’t be back for another few weeks. Unless you’re returning with some more mature and less hateful content, I suggest you do us all a favour and don’t bother coming back.